Yesterday my dad came by for the first time during the week, when I am alone with the babies. Both babies woke to eat at the same time and were fussing and wanted to be held. I did what I always do in that situation, put one in my lap, hold the bottle with one hand, and then put one up on my shoulder and bounce them until the other baby has had a few ounces, then switch. There is always crying and usually spitting-up as burping is quite difficult. He was no help and at some point was like 'you have to do this everyday? it's inhumane, almost torture'. That comment alone, while really pretty telling of his parenting style, made me feel like less of a failure at this.
I have to admit that I haven't been blogging as much b/c I don't want this blog to turn from an IF blog to a 'wow, parenting is hard' blog. When we were still struggling to have these babies I hated when IF blogs turned that corner. Now, I totally get it. And now Elijah is crying in my lap....I'll continue my thoughts soon:)
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You poor thing. That sounds really rough. And I believe I've turned the "wow, parenting is really hard" corner also. I think it's unavoidable. Regardless of how much work it took to get to this point, the fact is that it IS hard. Did we know that before we got here? Maybe. But now we're really seeing it, LIVING IT, and that's ok!! Hang in there, momma!
Wow, that sounds rough. I think I've finally turned the "wow, parenting is really hard" corner myself. And I think that's ok. Regardless of how long it took to get here, the fact is that parenting IS hard. Did we know that pre-baby(ies)? Maybe. But now we're experiencing it first hand and it's ok to admit that it's hard, b/c it IS:)
Parenting is hard and you should be able to vent here. Nobody is going to judge you.
Hang in there, you're doing a great job!!
It's totally fine if it turns that corner. I don't know about anyone else, but it gives me hope....
Yeah, certainly no judging from me. I feel you sister! I love it, but somedays it's pretty tough!
Wow- I would have made him help.
I think it is totally okay for it to turn that corner- after all, it is your blog and yours to do whatever you want with it. If people don't like it, they can stop reading it. That's my policy. And yeah, I've turned that corner too. But parenting twins IS hard.
isn't it a good thing when someone from the IF community turns that corner? i always felt like it gave me some hope!!
and your dad? my goodness. sounds a lot like my dad. he feels like children should be seen and not heard. also...i'm pretty sure he's changed less than a dozen diapers in his life. and he has THREE kids!
Just a tip. I too always feed at the same times. Now the boys hold their own bottles, but back then boppies, blankets, and highchairs were my best friends. I would put them both in a boppy and sit on the floor and feed them. The same with the highchairs. Our highchairs lean back pretty far. So there I would sit in between each seat with blankets under the bottles as I held them up. Just a thought. And YES we have to do this EVERYDAY. In some ways it gets easier, but as I learned this week it ALSO GETS HARDER. My bugs are now mobile and it's a new ball of worms.
I love reading your blog. Our twins were born on 12/17/09, so they're about a month older than yours. They were in the NICU for 23 days.
I feel like H & R have turned a big corner in the last week or so...On those crazy days I just think about how special we must be to have carried these beautiful (sometimes screaming) babies:)
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