A former colleague of mine, who I have stayed in contact with off and on, is pregnant with their first child. She is due in about a month. I haven't talked to her since she told me she was pg. She had some trouble, tried clomid, got pg, had a m/c, had an HSG and then got pg again the next cycle. She knows about our IF and that we had just started seeing an RE and gave me HSG advice.
The reason for the background is to brace you for what she said to me when she told me she was pg. Basically I hadn't heard from her in a few months so I called to see how she was doing. She just kept saying how sick she was, and how terrible she was feeling...you know, like the kind of complaining where people want you to inquire what is wrong with them...but I had a hunch, so I didn't ask. Finally, she told me it was b/c she was 12 week pg and how AWFUL it was. And how she didn't think it would happen so quickly. And how now she couldn't smoke, or drink coffee. How she wishes it wouldn't have happened for a few months b/c they wanted to take a vacation. Just kept complaining, and complaining and wanted me to feel sorry for her. I felt like screaming "You were taking clomid, WTF did you think would happen!!!" Finally she asked how things were going for us -not well- and she then told me that I needed to be patient and relax!!!!! OMFG! Needless to say I never called her again.
But, last night I had a dream that I was at some sort of work conference and was sitting at the front of a room....and I could hear her talking in the back of the room. I knew if I turned around I would see her 8 month pg belly, so I kept looking forward to avoid it. Then I started sobbing. I even woke up nearly in tears. All morning I have been on the verge of tears when I think about it. Why? I have no clue. I hope this doesn't mean that I am going to run into her or something...that would be terrible!
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Don't you hate when dreams are so real that the dreamy feelings that you had stay with you all day?
it was just a dream. you don't need to interact with her if you don't want to. we can just feel sorry for her that she is so ignorant...and feel sorry for her child that he/she has to have someone so ignorant for a parent.
**hugs**
Sheesh...even I am over here wanting to wring your friend's little neck, with all her complaining and 'just relax' talk. GAH!
OMG - I cannot stand that!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously some people. WHEN I am pregnant, I am going to be throwing up with a smile on my face. I will whole heartedly take the sickness, in fact... I look forward to it. Ugh! Oh and don't forget to just relax. Ha! Sorry, but I would have put her in her place.
Blech. Seriously. What did she think Clomid was for?
I had a friend (who I haven't talked to for months) reach out to me today. You know....to see what was up with me....and of course to tell me she pg. Great.
what an odd dream. i sure hope you dont run into her soon.
i had a dream last night that my sisters baby was a boy and came out humongous. its funny because usually her babies are little noodles. well see if my dream comes true on tuesday.
have a good weekend. :)
What a nut case. Why do people do stuff like this??? I'm starting to think they actually think tellingpeople like us how "awful" it is is to make us feel better in their messed up minds. I'm not sure, I wish I could understand how people can be so dense and insensitive. You're definitely not alone... I love my best friend, but I am so sick of hearing her complain about wanting a beer (she's due in 2 weeks got pregnant on her second month trying).
I hate it when people complain for pity! Just relax... my foot! I mean, I can understand if she didn't know you were seeing an RE. But she was just plain ignorant and insensitive to the nth degree.
I hate those kind of dreams too -- the kind that seems to bring out your worst fears! Don't worry it was just a dream! If it does happen, just don't turn to look back and walk out of the room!
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