I knew before even setting a foot in that office that I would leave annoyed. And I was correct. Not only did she get on my case about my weight, again, I had to deal with bellies and ultrasound noises.
I was left waiting for 25 mins sitting w/my naked butt on the exam table. Of course the only thing to read were magazines about babies, which stayed in their nice little reading rack...which left me the whole time listening to the couple in the next room have their 20 weeks ultrasound. You know, the one where you find out what you are having? The heartbeat noise was so freaking loud, so were the comments about the baby. Then comes the worst. It's a GIRL!!! sob. happy. sob. happy. sob. from the couple. Me? nearly sob. angry. sob. why is this my life? sob. (OMG, while I am typing this a stupid ultrasound tech job training commercial came on...and it is like I am in that exam room all over again!!!)
Then the bitch gyno comes in and wants me to 'catch her up on our status', so I go into the whole 'one failed IVF, on to another' and the first thing she asks is 'so, tell me about your weight.' We have gone through this time and again, she thinks we can't get pg b/c I am apparently a huge lard ass. Srsly though, I know I am overweight, and could lose a bit....but it does not affect my fertility. At all. I ovulate like clockwork. We are only dealing with MFI!!!!
Ugh. That just sucked. Never again will I go to her. I will find a new gyno either way, either for fun pg time, or to do any other tests that insurance will cover.
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That sounds awful! Have you thought about a midwife? I know there are some near you that work with the local hospitals. She might be more in tune with your feelings, making it a little more tolerable. Let me know if you need names....Judy knows them all!
Ugh, I'm cringing for you! That just sucks. Completely.
On an unrelated note, I love your "srsly" - might have to copy that :)
arg. wtf? can you switch? my RE told me that there were higher pregnancy rates with people who were a little overweight....and instructed me not to try to lose weight before my cycles.
xoxo
That DOES suck! I'm sorry :(
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you are my hero (in being strong and not bitch slapping your doctor)
i would've been a mess.
((HUGS)) to you and thank God that's over with.
Eewww. Screw that. Totally with you by the way...the really really want my weight to be the problem. (uhhh, MFI, hello?). Ok, not that it's good for me or my poor blood pressure, but still!
Change!
Sorry it sucked.
Damned fertiles and their stupid happy bullshit. Seriously, I think there should be a separate part of the clinic for infertiles so we don't have to deal with that.
((HUGS)) to you. You should send the ob a tin of fudge or something as a thank-you.
That's a horrible story. I hope that you find a great Gyno. It can make a huge difference.
I love noswimmers' idea on the fudge. That sucks and I am sorry you had to deal with that. I gained A LOT of weight after I quit smoking and I remember my knee doctor being blunt about the fact I had to lose weight ASAP. It hurt, it was humiliating and it sucked. I did manage to take it off - not for him, for me - but 3.5 IVFS and now 2 DIUIS have not been a friend in the weight department - I have gained at least 15 pounds and am now officially overweight in my BMI. I think there was a study about BMI and pregnancy rates...I will try to find it.
((HUGS))
I'm sorry you had to endure that. I would definitely find another doctor - you need someone that is going to support you, not lecture you.
That sounds absolutely horrid. I've had a similar experience, although not quite *that* bad. Big hugs.
Ughh! They just don't get it!!
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