As all of my long time followers know, my job sucks. A lot. My colleagues and boss are extremely nosy, insensitive and disrespectful. I promised myself if this IVF cycle didn't work that I would find a new job, and the hunt has begun.
I have been using TTC as an excuse to stay at a crappy job for way too long. I always saw the end point, having a baby, going on leave, and not coming back....but now that end point isn't very clear. Well, it hasn't been for awhile, but this BFN made it very evident that the end point could be years away and there is no way I am going to be stuck here that long.
But now there are new questions, like is it irresponsible to start a new job and then take off time of IF treatments...and hopefully then for maternity leave? Should I be upfront about it? Should I not say anything and then if/when the time comes just up and leave?
All I know is that I am done with this job, these people, and this stress. Wish me luck with the hunt. A few resumes have already gone out. Fingers crossed. (and hey, maybe some have IF coverage?? that would be a nice bonus)
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I totally understand - I feel like I've been stuck in my job because of TTC, and now I wish I had looked elsewhere. I wish I could help you with your questions, but I think it depends a lot on your employer. I would hope to find a job in an office that is family-friendly and not against working mothers, and in that case, I would hope you'd be able to be honest and up-front about it.
Good luck with the job hunt!
I definitely would not say anything about IF/maternity leave. These are tough times and as much as I would like to think in this day and age employers wouldn't discriminate based on gender/family status, they do.
Also, make sure to check the policies before you accept a new job... my boss just eliminated all maternity leave and any paid medical leave, and we have way less than 50 people (which is the threshhold for FMLA) so there is nothing I can do about it. Find a big company that will have to comply with FMLA and usually has decent benefits. Even then, I think you have to be there full time for a year before FMLA applies to you. Best of luck!!! Hating where you go to work every day definitely wears on your body and soul...
I agree. I wouldn't say a word about your family life/ttc status. It may deter someone from hiring you. And word to the insurance benefits etc. I would check that out too if that is going to put any weight into your decision.
At my last job I don't think they would have hired me had they known I was going to start trying a month after I started. I'd rather be safe and get the job...
Coming from a recruiter's perspective, I 100% agree with the ladies who said not to mention IF/maternity leave in an interview. The job market is so competitive right now since so many people are out of work, and they might be more likely to choose a candidate who isn't going to need to miss any time from work- even if you're more qualified. Not fair, but realistic.
I'm glad you're job hunting! IF tends to make people put their lives on hold. I'm glad you've decided to take this step forward. Good luck- I hope you get some responses soon.
i was doing the same thing and finally decided to move in september. it all works out ;)
I agree with Dre...mum's the word. You have NO obligation to share your personal plans with them. It would do more harm than good at this point.
Company over 50 will be your best bet to get the benefits you're looking for. Good luck!!
good luck! IF/IVF really makes life go on hold - good for you for taking your life back. I hope it is a good search and that you get IF coverage.
Yes, you definitely need a change, but you are under no obligation to tell them about IF treatments. I personally wouldn't tell them. I hope you get something with IF benefits & FMLA!!!
No need to say anything. As a former HR administrator, I would be really uncomfortable if someone I was interviewing brought up their family plans/dynamics, children or not. That's your personal business, and has no bearing in a hiring decision - why even offer it, it has nothing to do with your skills. Now, after you get the job, and if you're comfortable, I don't see any trouble sharing it with work friends who might be supportive :) You don't need to give any heads up pre-hire regarding leaves, if your company offers them, they are a benefit that you are entitled to use. Good luck with the search!
Wishing you lots of luck with the job search! I hope you find a job that you love!
Good luck to you!
I switched jobs not long ago myself. I didn't realize how unhappy I was till I did it. I hope ou are able to find inner peace when you find your new position!
I wouldn't tell. Good luck with your search.
Good luck! It definitely helps to have something else to focus on...wishing you all the best!
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