Why do I try?

I am not sure why I even put the effort into being the bigger person at work. One of my colleagues and my boss invited me to go with them to lunch at a local Middle Eastern restaurant today. I LOVE Middle Eastern food and could not say no, their buffet is even vegetarian! Okay, enough about the food.....I am also trying to give people the benefit of the doubt and give them a second, third, and fourth chance to prove they are not the assholes they come off as.

So, we sit down and they just start talking about their kids....the entire time. I think I said one word the whole lunch...and it was probably just a 'uh-huh' and a nod. They both know full well about our IF struggles and have many times, both to my face and behind my back, said that I just need to get over all of this and adopt (or worse, that I should just focus on my career). I know their opinion, so I don't talk to them much about it.

But WTF? To just completely pretend I am not there, or worst to just not care that I am right there, and talk the entire time in their smug tone about how having kids is like having a second job....and how" rude teachers are to give so much homework...I mean god, don't they know we work?" UGH!

I'm not trying to say that people should feel like they cannot mention their kids around me. I love kids, obviously, and I always ask how their kids are...how piano lessons are going, etc. But when you are at lunch with just three people to choose a topic of conversation that one person has nothing to contribute to is just rude. Its like when you go for lunch with two friends who work the same place and you know nothing about anyone at their work and that is all they talk about. RUDE! And the fact that they are so dismissive of my feeling in regards to IF and feel they can give unsolicited advice all the time makes it that much worse. I give up. I need a new job.