My older sister has 3 children. She also has serve mental health and addiction issues. She has been in and out of rehab and inpatient mental health facilities for years. As of last month she has moved 2 hours away from where she was living and in with my aunt and grandma, along with her kids.
Her poor kids have moved like 6 times in the past 4 years (we live in WI, they now live in Washington state) and have had many people in and out of their lives and no stability whatsoever. At one point one of her kids came to live with DH and I for 6 months. Now there is talk that she might be moving back here.
While this would be in the best interest of her kids (we have a lot more family here that can help), and as selfish as it sounds, I really don't want her here. It just reminds me more and more of how unfair our situation is and how there are so many people much more deserving of parenthood, but its people like her that have kids they do not appreciate.
We have reached out many times to help her, but she just doesn't want it, or doesn't know how to accept it. I am at my wits end and just hoping they decide to stay put. I just can't handle having her here.
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It is really hard - I have a similar situation - it is so hard for me to be kind and understanding like I usually am when I myself am stretched to the limit. This roller coaster is so crappy - I try to limit how many other riders I bring along.
I'm so sorry. It really, really sucks to see crappy parents. It's not fair to those of us who could provide a good home to children. I really hope she stays away, so its not being shoved in your face - and so you can focus on your own journey. GL!
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